Praise for Dear Judge, Updated 2007

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"Dear Judge," is one of those rare books that can make you laugh and cry at the same time. It's a gem, one that should be read by anyone who has been affected by divorce, which includes just about all of us. I'm passing my copy on to my granddaughter, who's getting married in a few months. The book should not only make her laugh and cry, it should also make her think. Paul Perry author of "Street People" 05/20/02 

"There are deep psychological issues for children related to their parent's divorcing and the ongoing issues after divorce. These letters represent the feelings many children have towards divorce and how it affects them. My children were constantly asking me why they couldn't talk to the judge, or why the judge wouldn't listen to what they wanted to say. When fathers are losing their licenses or being jailed, the children view themselves as the cause of their father's misery. Children are smart and they figure out what is going on very fast. When my ex tried to lay blame on the state for the things that were happening my children called "bullshit" and confronted their mother saying the state was doing what they were doing to dad because of the letters she wrote. So before any mother accuses a father of being a "whiner" they ought to look at what they have done to cause the outpouring of emotion from the children of divorce. Children are negatively impacted by divorce, children have no say in the events related to divorce, and children suffer emotionally as a result." Bob Whiteside on alt.child-support  about "Dear Judge," 03/03/2002

"Dear Judge, is essential reading for parents and others involved in divorce or child custody cases to remind them that their children should be both seen and heard. These letters are vivid proof of what I have observed as an attorney practicing family law. Children understand what is occurring between their parents and they don't want to be used as pawns in the battle of hurt feelings between the adults in their lives. Take heed of these children's wise words." Linda J. Jones, Attorney at Law, 2001 Livingston, TX

"Dear Judge, made me think differently about children's feelings. They know what is going on in our lives even if they are only 5 or 6, they know." Laura Vazquez 02/12/01

"I had the opportunity of purchasing and reading your compilation book, "Dear Judge" during the recent Children's Rights Conference and was both moved and impressed. I will be meeting shortly with the leadership of the Michigan Judges Association and would like to make copies available to them during our meeting in July. Ultimately, I would like to make a copy available to each of the 300 family court judges in this state." Murray Davis Founder & Executive Director DADS OF MICHIGAN an A.C.F.C. affiliate 06/25/01

"Dear Judge, is an emotional view into how children feel some letters moved me. It should serve to remind adults of the innocent caught "in between." Maria Buescher Retired School Principal 04/22/01

"I had no idea how articulate children could be about adult situations, and how those situations affect them. Dear Judge, has made me more aware of little ears sitting close that don't seem to be listening, but are. This may be the most important book I have purchased this year." Richard Littlehorse, Parent, Step-Parent, Grandparent, 2001 Tulsa, OK 

"Sometimes it takes weeks and months to build enough trust with a child to get these kinds of honestly felt comments. I had a notion these letters were out there. Thanks for taking the time to present them in Dear Judge,." Kathy Clarkson, Ph.D. 2001

"I think what you have done with Dear Judge, is wonderful." Melinda Cole 2001 Lufkin, TX

"None of my words of experience or wisdom to parents have made the impact that Dear Judge, has. I have seen revenge motivated parents change overnight. The change in attitude has a remarkable effect on how they deal with the children, the other parent and me. Keep up the good work." Richard Samson, J.D. 2001

"Dear Judge is very interesting, sad and funny. I enjoyed the letters. I also sympathize because I’m a divorced mom of two boys." Cucie Kelley 2001

"Dear Judge, is a remarkable piece of work. It looks like I will have to start ordering in bulk. My associates and clients are truly moved by its message. The message I have been voicing without much success for twenty years. Even parents who see their children daily could learn a great deal about parenting through this book as well." Jack Farrell, J.D., M.A. 2001

"An innovative approach to encouraging a more child-sensitive divorce litigant. I have seen Dear Judge, go a long way towards straightening out some very damaged parent-child relationships. This small book would be a great addition to any pre-divorce class." Elizabeth Scott Ph.D., M.S., M.A. 2001

"Just a note to let you know that my husband passed away this summer. I can’t tell you how pleased he was with Dear Judge,. He was satisfied with the form his letters took and your fidelity to their content. His fervent hope was that fewer children will have to write letters because of this book. Thank you again." (Name withheld by request)  2001

I wish I would have had Dear Judge, when my own custody battle started. Kids should be able to tell their true feelings without fear of what the parents will say or do to them. Just because there is a paper to sign that states where the kids want to live doesn’t mean that’s always what’s best. Judges need to look at the whole picture not just the legal papers." Teresa Tatum, 2001 Baytown, TX

"I enjoyed reading letters about the way children feel. It makes you really think. Dear Judge, hits home." Huda Hill, divorced mother of a daughter and son.  2001

"Dear Judge, is really good. Every case involving children should have a special segment where the children can tell the judge, how they feel in an atmosphere free of any parental influence." Pat Quinlen, 2001 N.J.