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5 out of 5 stars A singular achievement and an amazing resource,
Charlotte Hardwick's use of the military metaphor throughout (including a photo of a child in a Marine Corps dress uniform on the cover) is in recognition of two salient facts about custody disputes: they can be psychologically as brutal as war; and the stakes can be extremely high.
(full review) January 24, 2003
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We have a large family and, thus far, have had no personal experience with a child custody case. However, over the years, several friends of our family
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resemble ³war² but all of them do have profoundly serious implications and consequences. Hence the incalculable value of Hardwick¹s assistance when
attempting to know what they are, to understand them, and then to proceed."
(full review) 03/30/2002
Robert Morris Dallas, Texas
"Win Your Child Custody War, has given me
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last bit of value out of it. Custody of your child is to important for inferior
products or books. This book is a true collaboration between the author and the
reader." Dan (Stonewall) Jackson Austin, TX
This is the most personal review I have ever written, but given the nature of the book, I feel compelled to offer personal confirmation of the value of WIN YOUR CHILD CUSTODY WAR. Surprisingly, I also found a lot of self-forgiveness as I read this book. As I revisited old wounds and previously second-guessed decisions, I found confirmation of my own good decision-making, giving the book a remarkably positive spin for this battle weary, but successful warrior. Very highly recommended.
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Senior Editor, WordWeaving.com 01/01/02
"A friend recommend the Win Your Child Custody War
manual to help me prepare for psychological and home evaluations. I
was very skeptical that one book could cover so much information in such detail.
Seeing the 10 home studies and psychological evaluations removed a lot of the
"fear of the unknown." I have actually enjoyed much of the reading and
many of the examples. The 7 detective reports are amazing. Even if I wasn't so
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mother, step-mother. Scottsdale, AZ.
"Win Your Child Custody War has served as an axe and
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Loving father of four alienated sons. Brunswick, Maine
"When my attorney told me to buy this book I thought he was
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04/06/01 Donald Goldman Ann Arbor, MI
"Win Your Child Custody War is a deluge of current information
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error of hundreds of parents, amazing research and a storehouse of common
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04/05/01 Eric Deland Psychologist, Mediator, Trainer & Arbitrator Chicago,
Il.
"By definition (persistent worry about oneself and ones children,
recurrent, fear of initiating action, fear of continued inaction, distressing dreams that
may cause fatigue, muscle tension, inability to concentrate, headache and nausea) a child
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elements of cognitive behavior therapy, which teaches people to change the way they think
and behave. This helps them eliminate anxiety by recognizing triggers and learning better
ways to deal with them. I have recommended this outstanding tool to my patients with great
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"Win Your Child Custody War, is a constant source of ideas
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"Everything I knew about family court, I learned from
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"Win Your Child Custody War, is the great equalizer that every
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01/02/01 Theadore Robinson, Esq. New York, N.Y.
"I am really impressed and proud to have your books in my "custody". I
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Santa Monica, CA 1999 Makinglemonade.com
"Win Your Child Custody War", is a must read for anyone who is dealing with
children now or in the future during a child custody battle. In fact I would even
recommend it for someone who has already been there, and is still trying to figure out
what hit them, and why. The chapter on how to select and work with an attorney by itself
makes this book worth its weight in gold (no small feat, as this is a hefty volume). This
chapter should be required reading for ALL parents headed towards a contested custody
matter, and for their attorneys as well!" Anne P. Mitchell,
Esq., Founder/Director, Fathers Rights and Equality Exchange
"Win Your Child Custody War helped us Tremendously. My family and I purchased
your book at the beginning of my son's custody battle for his daughter, who was taken
from him by her mother. She left town while pregnant, and gave the baby to an Adoption
Agency, without the knowledge or consent of my son (the father).. Your book helped us in
many, many ways. Some of the advice that stands out in my mind
,was the little things that made a big difference regarding how your behavior in the court
room, like "no whispering", no outbursts, and much more. Your book became our
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for making available such a wonderful book!" 09/292000
Arnetta Kenney (grandmother) Johnathan Kenney ( father)
"The Win Your Child Custody War manual arrived this afternoon - looks like it is
all you cracked it up to be. But you know we almost did not buy it, here is why: When I
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updated more often than any other on the market. I would strongly suggest that fact is brought out in your ad. What we
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stores. We are in the middle of a custody case and finding 'Real' information is like
finding hen's teeth. I figure after 3 readings we should be ready to outline a complete
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"Thank you so very much, on behalf of our ENTIRE Board, we are absolutely THRILLED
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for Equal Rights. Miami, FL.
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Boyer B. Cole, N.M.D.\ Author and Father
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communication." Steve Chiton, Father 50/50 custody, Miami,
FL
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the various prospects involved beautifully outlined."
Ralph
and Marietta Marchese, Grandparents, Phoenix, AZ
"Within these pages the various scenarios play
themselves out, from the negotiated settlement to the full nuclear exchange. Win Your
Child Custody War, is not only an entertaining allegory of war and peace, however. It
bulges with strategic techniques on the handling of the players (including you) in your
ordeal of battle. Examples of professional reports from the various troops under your
command, and explanations on interpreting their real meaning. Checklists and blank forms
help you, the prospective commander, formulate and stick to the best tactical strategy for
you own custodial conflagration. There are many more helpful books on making peace and
recovering from defeats than this one, but if you are thrust into war, make no mistake
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review) Brent
Wellman, Fathers' Rights and Equality Exchange (F.R.E.E.), San Diego, CA
"Win Your Child Custody War has leveled the playing field for my son and
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Bea Davi,
Grandmother, Warren, PA